Love marriage versus Arranged marriage

Posted on October 21, 2013


Love mariage versus arranged marriage

Love mariage versus arranged marriage

Love marriage versus arranged marriage

Ah, the age old debate. When I was younger, the answer was pretty clear. Arranged marriage was for older, uglier and more desperate people but now that I have matured a little, suddenly, it’s not that clear anymore.

I have plenty of friends who have now resigned to the arranged marriage phenomenon and honestly, it doesn’t seem that bad anymore. Definitely not as bad as it’s made out to be. I know many reading this will be appalled by what I’m suggesting but think about it, are you willing to wait for the rest of your life for your one-true-love who may or may not decide to show up, or do you want to get out there and find somebody decent to share your life with?

While love and romance is, undeniably, an important part of marriage, so is companionship and support. And from my experience, once the initial butterflies fade away, you stay in a relationship for companionship and the bond that you’ve built with the person. Arranged marriages eventually result in that too. Now I’m not saying you should stop looking for love and jump straight into an arranged marriages, all I’m saying is that maybe, just maybe arranged marriages aren’t as bad as they are made out to be. And if you have a supportive and loving family, they won’t force you into getting hitched to just anyone.

Of course there is this whole unpleasant scene of getting rejected based on looks and other attributes – you have to admit, this happens in real life too right?

So this is a request to all those women out there, who squirm when their folks bring up this topic, enter into it with your eyes and ears open. You never know, you might just find someone who may not sweep you off your feet, but will make sure you’ve someone to lean on when you need a shoulder, who may not leave you breathless and filled with butterflies but will be dependable and caring. I don’t think that’s a bad deal at all. Do you?

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