I know I’ve been away for a while, but a lot has been happening! Not only in my love life, there is a lot going on otherwise as well, but you are not here to hear all that. You are here because you are in a relationship that is going down the drain. Either that or you are in a swanky new relationship you so desperately want to make work.
I know I’m no expert, but I’m hoping what works for me, works for you as well.
How to make a relationship work
- Trust in a relationship: You cannot survive without trust. It doesn’t matter if you are dating the most promiscuous girl or boy in town; you just have to have faith in them. Of course there are chances that they may let you down but your constant questioning and suspicion will only end up putting cracks in your relationship.
- Space in a relationship: Yes, I know you love your partner so much that you want to spend all your time with them but you’ve got to give each other some space. And this space depends from person to person. Some people need an entire galaxy to be comfortable. Give your partner the space they so need to let your relationship flourish. The space to do their own thing, the freedom to have a girls/boys night out, the space to miss you.
- Love in a relationship: Well, this one is obvious isn’t it? But I thought I’d add it here after space just to emphasize that sometimes space can be misinterpreted as disinterest. Shower your partner with love and affection to make sure that isn’t so. The way you demonstrate your affection needn’t be over the top. Sometimes, a hug or a warm squeeze around the shoulders works wonders.
- Acceptance in a relationship: You may think your partner is perfect, but given some time, you’ll realise that they’re not. Its okay, neither are you. We all have our flaws and to make a relationship work, you have to accept your partners’. As long as they aren’t a deal breaker, acknowledge and accept them. Pushing them under the table may lead to hidden resentment.
- Swallow your pride: A successful relationship is never an ‘I’, its always a ‘we’. And sometimes, in a ‘we’, its difficult to come to a consensus. Step back and let your partner win some arguments. After all, you are not in a competition are you?
- Do things for each other in a relationship: Its not necessary that you and your partner share all your likes and dislikes. So if some times, your partner asks you to do something for them – like going to a museum with them, do it. It’s such a small thing and it’ll make your partner really happy. Is your ego really more important?
There are not hard and fast rules here. What works for me, may not not work for you. The absolute guide is up to each one of us to figure out but I’m hoping these pointers help you. All the best :)
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