My recent post got me thinking, do women really like bad boys? I mean, why is it that nice women end up with guys who treat them like dirt? Why do these nice women put up with it? Why do seemingly nice guys start acting strange when they finally get the girl? So many questions! I don’t even know where to begin!
So, lets start with me. I’m a perfectly nice person. No I’m no saint, I can be a bitch sometimes but I have a really strong conscience and I try to make up for it as soon as possible. In that sense, I think I’m nice. I’m pretty, intelligent and fun. But still somehow I end up pushing away all the nice guys and fall head over heels in love with guys who don’t treat me right. I don’t get it either.
Why do girls like bad boys
The playboy: I’ll admit, I wasn’t even attracted to this guy till he started showering me with attention. And he was so smooth with his words and actions. He was unlike any other guy I had ever been with. He used to flirt with me with a confidence that left me flustered. My naiveté and innocence seemed to fascinate him. Of course I fell for him. I believed that I could change him. I believed that with me he would realize what he was missing out on. The stable and consistent love of a nice girl. What a fool I was. When I realized he didn’t want to be with me, I cut all relations with him. It was probably the hardest thing I had to do. Made worse by the fact that he made out with my best friend and now my best friend was under the illusion that she could change him. I think we’re just too conditioned by those movies in which a playboy falls for a regular girl and changes his whole life upside for the girl. Does this ever happen in real life? I don’t think so.
The commitment phobic: This is the guy who likes you. You know he likes you, he knows he likes you, everyone in the whole world knows he likes you but he still balks at the thought of dating you. Sometimes for 6 whole years. I know this girl who’s just awesome but this guy has been stringing her along for such a long time. Why? I don’t know. Sometimes I think he’s just waiting for someone better to come along. Why is she still with him? I don’t know, she says she loves him. But how can you love someone who doesn’t love you back? Maybe she finds his behavior mysterious. Hey, women love mystery too!
The disappearer: The latest in my long list of love failures, this one was an enigma to me. For a year he messed around with my head. One moment he used to be charming and flirtatious and the next moment he used to drop off the radar. Needless to say, I was hooked. Of course, he was incredibly cute and funny but there was something else too. I couldn’t figure out why he wasn’t enamored by me. I had never had a problem getting guys to ask me out but this guy just resisted all my efforts. Eventually though, after a year he finally relented. He suddenly realized that he was in love with me. I was elated! Of course, I was such a fool that I believed him. Within 3 months, he started withdrawing. I couldn’t figure it out, the more he withdrew the more I pushed. Eventually we split up but to this day, I feel hurt by his behavior and blame myself for his behavior. Weird huh?
Did I miss out some category girls? Guys, do you think women also fall in some brackets like this? Let me know what you think!
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January 30th, 2012 → 11:17 pm
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