I know there probably is like a pretty big list, but here are some things I’ve learnt from the multitude of relationships I have been in. Some are taken from guy friends who somehow always seem more into their girlfriends than any of my boyfriends were in me. Without much further ado, here they are!
Things that women should know about men
They are shy: Most Indian guys are shy, they hesitate to cross the friend wall unless you give them a little push. This is especially true if you are a dominating and loud girl like me. I’ve heard from a million people that I intimidate them. Sometimes I think I should tone it down a little, but I need a man by my side, not a boy who runs and hides.. 
They need a lot of space: There are a few who don’t make this obvious. But most like to take time off from their girlfriends. This doesn’t reflect anything on your relationship or your man’s emotional attachment, its just how they are built. Sometimes, they just like to forget all about you and watch a football match. They are weird like that, no changing them.
They don’t mind if you make the first move: I wouldn’t say propose to the guy, but if you make the first move to kiss him or try a new move, trust me he’ll welcome it. In small quantities, they don’t mind letting you take the leadership. I’m yet to meet a guy who’s completely okay letting a woman rule over him without coming across as a wimp.
They like doing things for you: Somewhere, we’ve become too independent. We drive our own cars, we pay our own bills, heck we even open our own doors. I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with that. I’m like that girlfriend, but maybe every now and then, it wouldn’t hurt to pump up the fragile male ego by asking your man to do something for you. Like carrying a bag that’s too heavy for you or taking a look at your car or helping you with your computer.
They like their friends too: Even though they may not spend hours chatting over the phones like we do, he probably is as close to his friend as you are to yours. Respect that relationship. I once insinuated that I didn’t enjoy my guy’s friends as a reciprocation to some other fight. It wasn’t even true, I quite enjoyed his friends. But the relationship totally went southwards from there. There were other reasons, but I know this one was on the list too.
They like it when you send them sweet texts: I know many ladies out their wonder if their messages are being read and ignored. I used to send sweet texts to my guy when he was at work. My logic was, if he’s having a busy day, he’ll read my message and maybe for a moment feel happy that I’m thinking of him. But I never got a reply. Of course I was heartbroken. I eventually found out that as much as he liked receiving those messages, me expecting him to reply just made him feel guilty. Go figure.
Is there anything that the guys want to add here? Or maybe something the girls have learnt that I’ve missed out? Leave your comments!
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